Possible Candidate

There are so many possibilities in this world. From what to eat, to what material items you may have, to the possible candidates in our lives. Now what makes a person choose one thing over another is what makes us all different and unique. Most of the time what one person likes is much different than the next. Yet, often there are times when two people end up liking the exact same thing(s). For the most part though that is ok. Who cares if you have the same car as someone else? Or the same eating habits? These common threads are often what bring us together. When it gets brutal is if you are after the same thing and there is only one to go around. For example, two companies fighting over the same job applicant. Or two people fighting over the object of their affection. Someone is going to win and someone is going to lose. The loser is going to possibly miss out on something that could have been life changing. However, we make that choice whenever we choose one possibility over another.

Now I bring this up because I have what I call a Possible Candidate. That is, someone in my life that I am auditioning in a sense. Trying to gather all information before coming to a conclusion. I have done my research. I have tried to find out every last thing that I can (without totally seeming like a stalker) and what I find is I want to know more. Of course, the only way for me to get more is to be bold and aggressive. I have to speak up and let this person know that they are in the running and what do they win? Me. Why is it so hard to tell someone this? Why do we fear that rejection? If anything we should be happy that this person isn't dooming us to something that could possibly turn out to be the worst decision of our lives. Yet, we are still hurt and take some kind of personal hit when someone does this. Perhaps, it is because when we finally get to the point of being ready to be rejected we have already made our decision that this person is no longer a Possible Candidate but someone that we would like to take on as a for sure thing. The problem is that we haven't given them the time to decide if we are a Possible Candidate and then a for sure thing with them. Often we get surprised and the one we desire says yes. Although, most people don't give themselves the chance to be surprised. They over analyze and talk themselves out of it. Sometimes we have to watch as someone else swoops in and takes the prize. That really sucks, but it is life. My prize is someone that I have imagined both accepting me and rejecting me. Of course, I would choose the first but I would be ok with the second.

The point I am trying to make is that people spend too much time worrying about the outcome of things. We should all be living in the moment. I have a feeling that the Possible Candidates in our lives are just as scared as we are. They want to know if they are going to get something just as much as the people seeking them out are. If we all just told each other what we desired and went for it full throttle then we would all have more fun stories to tell in the end. Why be lonely if you don't have to be? Remember that whatever you choose it is your choice to make. I am leaning more towards telling mine. I know the fun might be lost once he knows but then again maybe it will just be more exciting than it already is. I will keep you posted.

Don't Be A Lemming!